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why the gay community no longer feels inclusive.
if you’ve ever walked into a gay space and felt invisible, judged, or like you had to perform just to be tolerated — you’re not imagining it.
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Fair question. I used to think no, but now, I believe people are generally shy and insular. It is not exclusive to the queer community. People congregate in little groups; even at a family reunion.
Being inclusive requires effort and intention.