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unapologetic: are you walking in your truth
or hiding your shine?
understanding your score.
exploring how confidently you're embodying your femininity — or still dimming your light to survive.
this self-assessment is specifically for feminine gay men who want to reflect on how fully and freely they’re showing up. if you’ve ever found yourself shrinking, performing masculinity to stay safe, or questioning whether your softness makes you less worthy — this is for you.
scoring.
👉 15 - 18 points → you're living it.
🌱 you’re not just showing up—you’re shining.
you’ve done the work to unlearn the shame, release the performance, and stand fully in your truth. your softness is no longer hidden—it’s honored. your presence speaks without you needing to explain. keep walking with your head high—you’re becoming the permission others have been waiting for.
“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown
a deeply empowering guide to living fully, letting go of what people think, and embracing authenticity as your superpower.
book recommendation.
👉 9 - 14 points → you’re awakening.
🌱 you’re somewhere between shrinking and shining—and that’s okay.
you’ve started asking the right questions, peeling back the layers, and noticing when you're not being your fullest self. you’re waking up from the game and beginning to write your own rules. stay curious, stay grounded. the real you is closer than ever.
“All About Love” by bell hooksa beautiful, bold call to return to love as truth, especially the kind that starts with how you see and treat yourself.
book recommendation.
👉 0 - 8 points → you’re still hiding your shine.
🌱 somewhere along the way, you learned that being yourself was dangerous—or not enough.
maybe you’ve spent years performing, protecting, or waiting to be chosen. but it’s time to choose you. this isn’t about shame—it’s about coming home. you deserve to be seen, loved, and celebrated as you are. and that starts with finally letting yourself be visible.
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“The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz
a simple but powerful guide to breaking the beliefs you inherited and reclaiming the freedom to live your truth.
book recommendation.
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then its time to join the conversation.
be part of a real community where we discuss the things that actually matter—
love, loneliness, masculinity, friendships, and everything in between.
share your experiences, challenge norms, and connect with others who get it.
no filters. no judgment. just real conversations.
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