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Explore a curated collection of self-assessments designed to help you reflect, grow, and better understand where you stand in areas like love readiness, empathy, self-worth, and more. Each assessment is grounded in insights from real books and research—not trends—so you can trust that you're learning something meaningful. Review your results, explore the references, and take your growth deeper.
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healed but withholding?
this self-assessment is for the lightworkers, givers, and healers who’ve done the work — but aren’t sure if they’re sharing their love, or just storing it. if you’ve ever felt like your heart is full but your hands are closed, or if you’ve struggled to reconnect after healing in solitude, this one’s for you. your healing is sacred, but your overflow is where the magic lives.
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unapologetic: are you walking in your truth or hiding your shine?
this self-assessment is specifically for feminine gay men who want to reflect on how fully and freely they’re showing up. if you’ve ever found yourself shrinking, performing masculinity to stay safe, or questioning whether your softness makes you less worthy — this is for you.
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have i become what hurt me?
this self-assessment is for the tender-hearted — the former people-pleasers, the open-hearted lovers — who’ve since learned to armor up.
if you’ve found yourself more emotionally distant, more selective with your love, or more focused on control than connection, this is your moment to pause and reflect.
sometimes the shift is so gradual, we don’t even notice it.
this isn’t about guilt — it’s about clarity.
you didn’t become selfish.
you became tired.
but maybe now, it’s time to find your way back to who you really are.
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is rejection getting in your way?
this self-assessment is for anyone who’s ever held back their love, dimmed their presence, or abandoned their own desires out of fear of being turned away. if you’ve found yourself shrinking before you even try, or replaying past hurt like a warning not to reach again — this one’s for you. rejection is painful, but letting it rule your life can keep you from the connections, joy, and freedom you were meant to experience. courage isn’t about not fearing rejection — it’s about deciding it no longer gets the final say.
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am i in spaces where i can be real?
this self-assessment is for anyone who’s ever felt like they’re performing more than existing, code-switching to stay safe, or wondering if their authenticity is too risky for the room. if you’ve ever questioned whether the spaces around you are truly safe — or if you’ve just gotten good at shrinking to fit — this one’s for you. surviving is sacred, but staying in survival can keep you from ever fully arriving.
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the perfection mask: am i wearing it?
this self-assessment is for gay men who’ve learned to survive by looking flawless, staying in control, and keeping it all together. if you’ve ever felt distant even in close relationships, struggled to be vulnerable, or feared being seen without your “best face” forward — this is for you.
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am i a highly sensitive gay man?
this self-assessment is for gay men who’ve ever walked into a room and just knew something was off — even if no one said a word. if you find yourself easily overwhelmed in social spaces, deeply affected by others’ energy, or often needing solitude to recharge, this is for you. being highly sensitive isn’t a weakness — it’s a gift. this will help you recognize it.
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am i performing for attention or living in my truth?
this self-assessment is specifically for gay men who’ve learned to measure their value through attention, attraction, or being desired. if you’ve ever felt lost without sexual validation, found yourself performing to stay relevant, or feared who you might be without the gaze of others—this is for you.
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is rejection stopping me from being seen?
this self-assessment is specifically for gay men who’ve found themselves holding back—staying quiet, playing it cool, or not reaching out at all. if you’ve ever stopped yourself from initiating, sharing, or showing up fully because you feared being ignored, misunderstood, or unwanted—this is for you.
am i too hard on myself (and others)?
this self-assessment is for gay men who struggle with perfectionism, high expectations, or feeling let down when people can’t meet their needs exactly. if you’ve ever felt like you’re never doing enough — or that others are constantly falling short — this is your invitation to check in, soften, and make space for real, human connection.
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