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am i a highly sensitive gay man?
understanding your score.
tuning into the part of you that feels everything.
this self-assessment is for gay men who’ve ever walked into a room and just knew something was off — even if no one said a word. if you find yourself easily overwhelmed in social spaces, deeply affected by others’ energy, or often needing solitude to recharge, this is for you. being highly sensitive isn’t a weakness — it’s a gift. this will help you recognize it.
scoring.
👉 14 - 18 points → you’re highly attuned — and it’s a gift.
🌱 you deeply feel the world around you. your nervous system picks up on energy shifts, tone changes, and the unspoken emotions others miss. it’s not always easy — but it’s powerful. you’re not “too sensitive” — you’re just connected on a deeper frequency. your softness is strength. your awareness is wisdom. honor that.
The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron
a foundational read that will help you better understand your sensitivity, see it as a gift rather than a burden, and give you practical ways to navigate the world without burnout.
book recommendation.
👉 7 - 13 points → you’re energy-aware — and learning to trust it.
🌱 you’ve likely felt “different” or easily overwhelmed in spaces others seem fine in. that’s not a flaw — it’s sensitivity, and it’s trying to guide you. the more you learn to listen to your inner signals — and protect your peace — the more aligned and whole you’ll feel. you’re awakening to your energetic truth.
The Empath’s Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orlof
a compassionate and practical guide for understanding empathic traits, setting boundaries, and learning how to protect your emotional energy without shutting down or numbing out.
book recommendation.
👉 0 - 6 points → your sensitivity may be hidden — or still emerging.
🌱 maybe you’ve learned to tune things out just to get through the day. maybe you’ve had to harden just to survive. but if you’re reading this, there’s something in you that knows you feel more than you let on. it’s safe to soften. it’s okay to listen inward. sensitivity isn’t something you “gain” — it’s something you uncover.
Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
a powerful, heart-centered book that gently invites you to reconnect with your inner world, make peace with past survival strategies, and find the courage to come home to your full emotional self — without judgment.
book recommendation.
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