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am i living in alignment or in approval?
understanding your score.
exploring whether you’re living in alignment with your truth — or still performing for approval.
this self-assessment is for anyone who’s ever felt the pull between authenticity and acceptance. if you’ve found yourself shrinking your voice, questioning your choices, or shaping your life to fit other people’s expectations, this is for you.
scoring.
👉 14 - 18 points → you’re walking in your truth — and it shows.
🌱 you’re no longer shrinking to fit. you’ve begun releasing old scripts, choosing alignment over applause, and living from a place of deep self-trust. even when it’s hard, you keep choosing you. your life may not look “traditional,” but it feels honest — and that honesty is sacred. keep building a life that actually reflects who you are.
“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown
a beautiful guide to letting go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embracing who you really are — with courage, compassion, and connection.
book recommendation.
👉 7 - 13 points → you’re in the in-between — and that’s okay.
🌱 some days you choose alignment, other days approval wins. it’s not failure — it’s growing. you’re becoming more aware of what’s been shaping your choices, and that awareness is powerful. keep noticing when you’re performing, pleasing, or shrinking. the more you name it, the more you’ll shift it.
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“Untamed” by Glennon Doyle
a fierce, raw call to stop abandoning yourself and start living from your wild, untamed knowing.
book recommendation.
👉 0 - 6 points → you’ve been living for others — it’s time to come home.
🌱 maybe you were taught that approval = safety. that love must be earned. that being “too much” or “too different” would leave you alone. but you’re allowed to question those rules. you’re allowed to write your own story. your truth isn’t too much — it’s the key to your freedom. this is your invitation to begin again.
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“The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz
a powerful reminder that you are not your conditioning — and that freedom begins when you start unlearning the agreements that never belonged to you.
book recommendation.
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